If I had to sum this blog up in one sentence, it would be: Do it on the merits.
Take the job because you enjoy the work. Read the book because you’re interested in the subject. Be with a lover for love. Don’t do something to signal, or to fit in, or to stand out, or to get some other secondary benefit. Do it because it resonates with you in the place that matters. Do it for the right reasons. Do it on the merits.